The 14 hour trip home went AMAZING! We stopped a couple times to eat but Coyer did so well and didn't cry once. We were all a little surprised and hoped he'd always be that easy 😉
When we got home our week was filled with LOTS of guests. Our family and friends could not wait to meet him and we had so much fun experiencing life as a family of three. All those “firsts” were so special.
The only communication we had with Coyer's birth-mom would be through letters and pictures sent through the agency, so we wrote her monthly. During that time she sent us a "When You Wonder Book" that told us more about her, her family, and why she chose to place Coyer for adoption. We were so thankful to receive this because we knew as Coyer grew up, this would be something he would treasure and it would help answer some of his questions.
Five years later, we got a call from our agency in Texas letting us know that they were going to be closing and we had a few options for continued communication with Coyer's birth-mom. We could either keep the adoption "closed" and no longer communicate with her in any form, go through another social worker and pay for their services or, if we were comfortable, we could have an open adoption where we would exchange information and start communicating openly. We knew immediately we would love to have more of an open adoption and then found out she wanted the same. Since then, we have emailed, exchanged pictures, and texted regularly. It has been a joy to have her and Coyer's older sister apart of our lives.
Not a day goes by I don't thank God for this handsome young man and for choosing me to be his mother. He has the most compassionate heart and I know that's the work of the Lord. I pray that as he grows up he will always know he is loved by not only our family but by his birth-family. I pray Coyer will embrace his story and let God work through his life knowing that He has been with him since day one.
With Full Hands and an Open Heart- Kansas Fergen
Hi, I'm Kansas! I wish we could be doing this face to face over coffee. Maybe someday, till then this will have to do!