Researching different adoption agencies became our first task. We didn’t know anyone that had adopted before, so we started from scratch googling, making phone calls, and looking into different adoption resources across the country.
We quickly found out there was so much for us to learn in regards to the different costs of adoption, international vs. domestic, steps needed to be taken before adopting, different funding options available, what a "waiting family" was, the difference between an open and closed adoption, struggles that come with adopting, our responsibility after placement, different ways to adopt, and many children needing to be adopted. It was overwhelming, but also confirmed this was the path we wanted to take.
After talking to several agencies and taking time to pray over which agency would be the best for us, we decided to work with CASI, out of Boise, ID. We had to pick and agency and just trust.
Some of the initial questions we had when looking into agencies were:
• What states do they have adoption programs in?
• Do they work with any other agencies across the United States?
• What international programs do they have?
• How was their communication with us when we inquired?
• Would they accept a newly married couple?
• How long do most placements take with their agency?
• Do they have open and closed adoptions?
We felt such peace in our decision and began to fill out the initial application. Following this we had a conference call with the social worker from CASI to learn what decisions we would need to make in the coming months as we continued in the process.
We began to discuss what we "wanted" for our family through adoption. Sounds so crazy, right? However, that's the reality with adoption. We began to pray about the age, race, sex, country, and openness of adoption that God was calling us to pursue. THIS WAS HARD. It felt so wrong, yet we knew this was part of the process. This was the part that we continued to seek God's guidance on, knowing He already had a plan.
With Full Hands and an Open Heart- Kansas Fergen
Hi, I'm Kansas! I wish we could be doing this face to face over coffee. Maybe someday, till then this will have to do!